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Make Way for a Healthy Body A Sane Approach

Motivation –  It's an Inside Job

What's Eating You? The Problem with Emotional Eating 

Exercise How Much is Enough?

 

Make Way For a Healthy Body – A Sane Approach

    Losing weight and increasing your health and well-being does not have to be difficult.  What can make the process difficult is relying on dieting methods that have failed most people in terms of losing the weight and keeping it off permanently.  Most diet plans do not help you address and change the ways you might use food that have led to excess weight.  Many diet plans also encourage you to restrict calories to the point that the metabolism slows down.  This means that your body stores more calories as fat.  If too many calories are restricted you feel hungry and deprived.  This is all a set-up for diet failure.

    There is, in fact, a better way.  Here are a few tips to creating permanent changes in your health and weight:

  • Keep a food journal.  This will keep you more conscious and aware about what you eat.  After looking over a week’s worth of eating, highlight foods that are high in fat and high in sugar.  You may choose to “tweak” or adjust your intake of these foods in the coming week.  For example, if you put a tablespoon of butter on your oatmeal every morning you could use half a tablespoon instead.  Or if you have a sugary coffee drink on the way to work every morning you might substitute a plain coffee with milk every other day instead.  Over time, these kinds of adjustments add up to pounds lost and without a sense of deprivation.  The change is easily achieved and maintained indefinitely.

  • Shift your focus from a number on the weight scale to a focus on Health.  Losing 10, 20, or 50 pounds is not achievable today.  Increasing your health is achievable every day.  In fact, every healthy snack or meal you eat makes you that much healthier.  Getting healthier can be your doorway to a slimmer body.

    When you simply make small changes over time that you can live with the changes require less effort and are easily integrated into your daily habits and lifestyle.  The changes are more likely to be sustainable and permanent.  Losing no more than one to two pounds a week helps you avoid intense hunger that can lead to bingeing.  Hunger is not an enemy.  It is simply your body’s signal that you need some fuel.

    Lastly, keep in mind that your body weight does not define who you are.  You are an individual with talents, personality, and positive qualities.  You are someone who has set a goal to be healthier and you are taking steps everyday to get there.

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Motivation – It’s an Inside Job

    Sometimes the most difficult part of accomplishing something is just getting yourself to begin, to take that first step.  Plenty of people want to begin a healthy eating program or a fitness program but lack the motivation to get started.  The fact is everyone is motivated – in some direction.  The key is to shift your motivation to a direction that is useful and that allows you to achieve your goals.

    At times, external events help shift or increase motivation to lose weight or exercise.  Being told by your physician that you need to lose weight because you are developing diabetes or heart problems is an example.  Aside from these outside motivators, motivation is an inside job.  Think about how you motivate yourself.  Do you motivate yourself by thinking about all the rewards you’ll get when you reach your goal?  Or do you get yourself to do something because of the negative results of not doing it?  The first method is called “Towards Motivation”.  The second method is called “Away From Motivation” or, as I like to call it, the “Kick in the Butt Motivation”.  This type of motivation might sound something like this: “If I don’t lose some weight I’ll keep looking like this.  I’ll have to buy a whole new set of big clothes.”  The focus is on the negative consequences of not losing weight.  Some are able to use this type of motivation successfully in immediate, here and now situations such as, “If I eat that éclair I’ll just feel bad about myself afterwards.”  This can be enough incentive to change behavior.

    “Towards Motivation” tends to be more effective because it is encouraging and positive.  It also works better for long-term goals.  “Towards Motivation” gets you to focus on what you want and why you want it.  It might sound something like this, “If I eat healthier, low-fat food and exercise I’ll have the energy to hike with my children and we’ll have more quality time.  I’ll feel so much better.”

    If you have trouble starting that healthy eating or fitness program here is one way to shift your focus and increase your motivation.  Think about your personal goal, whether it is to lose weight or start a fitness program.  Make a list of all the reasons you want to reach the goal.  What will reaching the goal do for you?  Perhaps you want to have a healthier body so you can live longer and feel better.  Or maybe losing some extra weight will increase your self-esteem.  Come up with lots of reasons, large and small.

    To make accomplishing your goal more real and compelling, create a mental movie of you enjoying all the benefits and rewards of having your goal.  Observe what you look like and how you move with ease.  Also notice what others say to you as they notice your healthier, fit body.  Add to that all the good feelings of reaching the goal.  Go ahead.  Tantalize yourself!  Why wait to experience feeling good about your goal.  Imagine what it would be like to be there now.  Use this vision of yourself regularly to maintain your motivation.

    The idea is to get clear with yourself about what you want and then build a mountain of reasons for achieving your goal.  Make it so enticing that getting there is positive and rewarding.  Be your own personal coach, your own motivational speaker for yourself.  What you think about your goal and how you envision the process can determine your motivation and whether you get to the goal at all.

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What’s Eating You? – The Problem with Emotional Eating

    We all know that Americans are getting fatter.  Go to any public place and you can see this clearly.  Part of the problem is in the abundance of foods that are available 24 hours a day.  As Americans we are also much more sedentary than were previous generations.  Our consumption of high fat foods coupled with minimal physical activity contributes to storing excess fat and unhealthy bodies.  These factors do not explain all the increase in American’s expanding waistlines.  Plenty of people who struggle with extra weight use food for purposes other than nutrition and fueling the body.  In these cases, it is not about the food; it is about what eating does for the person emotionally.  For some, food can help to stuff down unpleasant feelings, fill a void of loneliness, and provide comfort.  Food can also be used to deal with boredom and stress.  For all these situations, the food fills a need, but only temporarily.  Stuffed feelings don’t go away; they are just stuck somewhere else, unresolved.  The eating does not address the reasons for the negative emotions in the first place.  The only thing eating truly fixes is physical hunger and the need for nutrition.

    By the way, carrying extra weight on the body can serve a purpose as well.  An extra layer of fat can give a sense of protection, be used to punish oneself, or to avoid intimacy, among others.  Extra weight can also be used to project an image of inner strength, like “throwing your weight around.”

    Regardless how we might use food or weight, there is a high price to be paid in terms of weight gain, self-esteem, and emotional health.  The real issues and problems behind our negative emotions need to be addressed and resolved.  The first step in this process is to become aware of eating habits and patterns.  Do you eat when you are not hungry?  Do you tend to eat when angry, bored, stressed, or when experiencing some other negative emotion?

    After identifying the emotions that lead to overeating, think about what you want the food to do for you.  Are you wanting the food to bring calm in the face of stress, bring comfort, or help you feel good?  What else could you do that could change the way you feel?  Some real solutions might include talking with someone, taking a walk, or finding something you like to do instead of eating.  If you think about it, there are lots of alternatives to substitute for eating when you aren’t really hungry.  The bottom line is, whenever possible, deal directly with the source of the problem.  By resolving the source of the problem you can eliminate the need to eat in order to change the way you feel.  You will be healthier, emotionally and physically.

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Exercise – How Much Is Enough?

    Do you ever get confused about what amount of exercise is enough for good health?  Research results appear fairly regularly in the newspaper and in magazines telling us how much exercise is optimal.  The problem is that the research results conflict with each other.  One source says that fifteen minutes of exercise is enough while another source concludes that at least 30 minutes of cardiovascular exercise, 5 times a week, is required.  No wonder there is confusion.  While some people simply don’t enjoy exercise, many have so little time in their work day that adding exercise, whether it is 15 minutes or 50, is a major challenge.  So, what is the right amount of exercise?  Given that many Americans are fairly sedentary, even a small amount of physical activity is a positive step.  For those who are not physically fit or active starting a fitness program that adds 30 minutes of exercise, five times a week could seem overwhelming, difficult to sustain over time, and possibly unhealthy.  If you aren’t fit or active the first step is to obtain a physical from your physician.  Have an understanding of any physical limitations as well as any concerns your physician may have.

    The second step is to set a reasonable goal.  The key to increasing and maintaining physical activity is to set a goal that you know you can attain and then build from there.  Add exercise or activity that you know you’ll follow through with and be successful.

    Pick an activity that has, at the very least, the potential of enjoyment for you.  If you choose something you don’t enjoy you are not likely to stick with it.  Some people need the structure and participation of a formal aerobics class, while others prefer to exercise at home using videotapes.  For some, regularly walking with the company of a friend makes the activity more enjoyable.  Each person can motivate the other.  Apart from structured “exercise”, physical activities like dancing, hiking, housecleaning, and yard-work count towards increasing heart-rate and fitness.

    Pay attention to how you think about exercising.  Do you imagine yourself dragging through the activity or, in general, think about it in negative ways?  What you imagine and think can determine how you feel.  Consider referring to exercise as “Play-time” or “My time for me”.

    Focusing on all the benefits to being active can help as well. It is more motivating to know that physical activity:

  • Burns calories and fat

  • Increases metabolism

  • Helps you cope with stress by providing an outlet

  • Helps to increase muscle, giving you a stronger, leaner look

  • Allows you to breathe more deeply, increasing circulation and a greater feeling of energy

 By being more active you are doing something positive and healthy for your body, your health, and your self-esteem.  Whether you exercise for 15 minutes or 50 minutes, twice a week or five times a week, what is important is to do what you enjoy and what you’ll maintain over time.

    Here’s my motto:

  • Start where you are
  • Do what you can
  • Honor yourself – mind, body, emotions, and spirit
  • Take small steps that you can live with
  • Keep in mind your future vision for yourself
  • Enjoy the ride

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